Relationship cannot just be based on sex. But fulfilling
sexual needs are also equally important. Most of the gays/bisexual guys broke
off with their partners and even friends because they feel hurt because of
being judged for their sexual impulses. I would like to share with you all a
real life situation, sent to me by my friend “Nishant”. He is the “I ”in this
story .
For instance if I meet a friend’s friend in gay party who is
quite a hot guy. I like him and I feel like taking him on bed. I initiate and
send a message through my friend to him that if he would like to share bed with
me. He declines and continues to enjoy the party with other friends. I find
myself in a awkward situation, still I try my best not to show my friends that
I feel embarrassed. Later at night I realize that it’s quite late and I could
not go home, I will have to stay back at my friend’s place. While getting on
friend’s car I realize that about 6-7 guys are staying at same friend’s flat
and one of them is the same guy whom I felt to have sex with. Anyways I was not
at all interested to take a chance because I had already felt insulted once. We
reach the flat and everyone sleeps in 3 different rooms. It was about 4am when I woke up for toilet and while going to
the bathroom through the passage, I get to see that same guy is having sex with
a tiny ugly looking guy who does not even worth shaking hands with. My face
gets red hot angry and I start feel rejected. Many thoughts starts coming to my
mind. That sexy guy is just a chutiya guy, I judge him that he must be not
worthy enough to fall for, he must not be good in nature, not worthy for being
a friend. I strictly create strong hatred against him and decide never to see
him or meet him again. Now my question to all of you, Is this judgmental behavior
right?? Do think this emotion will help me to create trust worthy and happy
friendship in gay community? What if I feel bad about myself based on other’s
approval?? Do I give freedom to others to choose what sort of partner do they
prefer for sex or Do I immediately declare them wrong? Am I jealous of my not
so good looking friend if he gets a good date? This behavior creates our
future, Therefore I request all of you to share your honest opinion, what you would have done if you would encountered
the same situation??
